Do you loan your Blu-rays out to friends?

[punisher]

you borrow it...you bought it

[Livelong420]

My girl lent out Zombieland. Help!

[icy hot]

I've got one rule on it: never lend anything I wouldn't be willing to replace. Movies, tools, or money...same thing.

[Kevin Holly]

Originally Posted by victim

A better question for the people here would be, "do you have friends to lend blu-rays to?"

Post of the year!

[smit.saini]

The worst is saying no to a family member. My aunt asked to borrow Big bang theory, and said she would return it in a week. A month later i go to her house for dinner and find ALL the discs laying around the TV area with scratches, and she misplaced the case. After that day there is a lock on my bedroom door.

[JavaJulien]

Originally Posted by PuppyJonathan

Finally someone else who see it like that!

I admit, I lol'd.

Yeah, I think locking them up in the bedroom is a little overboard.

[Cevolution]

I don't lend mine out, being burnt by people not taking care of them is one reason why, but piracy also has a lot to do with it. So many ask to borrow from me so they can copy them. I'm not paying for movies just to let someone own it for free at my expense. About 6 years ago, I worked with this guy that when he found out I owned a large dvd collection, asked to see a list because he said he was curious to know what I owned. So I gave him a list to look over. Anyway, the following day he showed up to work with a huge bag of blank dvd discs, he handed me the list and had highlighted a lot of the titles, and asked if I could copy them for him. I laughed, and told him no. I couldn't believe it, that he had brought in so many discs and just expected me to do if for him, and he didn't understand why I had a problem with it.

[kemcha]

I don't ever let anyone borrow my Blu-rays or DVDs. I let my brother borrow one of my Blu-rays once and it took him over a week to bring it back. Since then, I don't let him or anyone borrow my movies. My mother is probably the only exception, if she ever wanted to watch anything.

[Nielsb90]

Yeah I let friends and family borrow.. They don't have a problem with me borrowing their stuff so why should I. Besides - the only people I know who own a blu-ray setup take care of their own and other peoples movies! I would never, ever say no to family!

I have been burned in the past but that was in the DVD era when I was stupid enough to lend out movies to people in my class. Since then I've had no trouble.

[wickerjay]

Originally Posted by Dynamo of Eternia

I do the same. I NEVER give out the slip covers, and now I actually often put the disc in a different random case that I don't care about.

[Show spoiler]For the most part my mom, step-dad, and my much younger half-sister (who lives with them) are good about taking care of them, and if something does happen to them, they will replace it. While she doesn't have nearly the collection that I do, my sister if very protective of the discs in her collection and knows how to handle them properly.

But one time my sister borrowed Paul Blart Mall Cop on Blu-Ray from me, and the case was sitting on the coffee table with the corner slightly hanging off (I believe the disc was in their player at the time), and one of their dogs (they have two relatively small Shi Tzus) decided to knaw on the corner of the case, which also ruined the corner of the cover art (otherwise I would have just put the cover in a new case and been done with it).

They offered to replace it and they know that I'm rather particular about the packaging, etc, and while they shouldn't have left it sitting out where the dog could get to it, since the disc was perfectly fine, I felt kind of bad about asking them to replace it in this instance. Plus they are often very generous to my wife and me in many respects, so I didn't want to be a jerk about it (for example, currently this week I'm staying at their house and watching their dogs while they are out of town... something that I said I would do for free, but they ended up paying me $200 for doing so, plus they gave me free reign of any food they have in the house as well, so I can't complain too much!). Had the disc gotten ruined, or had it been some kind of limited, collectible packaging, I would have been more insistent that they pay for a replacement. I ended up grabbing a used copy cheap a while back from a second-hand store.

So now I will typically put any disc(s) that they borrow in some random extra DVD or Blu-Ray case(s) that I don't care nearly as much about. They don't care anyway, they just want to watch the movie/TV Show. That way if something like this happens again where the case gets damaged, but the discs are perfectly fine, I won't have to worry about replacing it.

This actually kind of works out nicely when they want to borrow multiple discs... Almost two years ago I was converting a bunch of old family videos from old mini-VHS tapes to DVD for my mom, and made several copies to give to a few different family members as gifts for Christmas. Each set ended up being 11 discs. I bought a bunch of 12-disc cases from this website called Diskmakers. I had to order them in bulk, giving me more than double the amount of cases that I needed, but the price was really good...I think it was about 20 cases for $11-something, if I recall correctly.

I have used some for other things since, but I still have a few extra, so when lending out several discs, I often use these. A while back my sister wanted to borrow all of my Big Bang Theory season sets (This was before Seasons 1, 2, and 5 were on Blu-Ray, so it was Seasons 1 and 2 on DVD and Seasons 3 and 4 on Blu-Ray), and I was able to put them all in one case. She's good about watching them, too... Within about 2-3 weeks she was done with them! A couple of years ago, before getting her own set of them all, she was gradually borrowing all of my Friends DVD sets, and would go through them like water! I'd lend her a few discs (usually about a season or two at a time), and a few days later, she'd be asking me for the next ones. We don't live far away from each other (maybe a 5-10 minute drive), and my mom works in the same building as me, so it's easy to get these things back and forth for the most part.

And in the event that they've had something of mine for a while, I know they won't take offense to me asking about it.



I am careful and particular about who I lend my movies out to. If I don't know or trust someone, I won't do it. But overall they are very good about it and there really haven't been any problems aside from the one instance of the dog chewing on the corner of the case.

I do this knowing that no one but me would notice/care if there was any damage to the slip or case.

Nowadays, I'm more reluctant to lend out DVDs because they're so much more fragile. As long as they don't drop the BD in the garbage disposal, I'm fine.

[beadelf]

Originally Posted by kryptonite1970

Yeah, same here! Don't mention what you have so they don't get the idea to loan something from you.

I don't loan them to anyone not even my sisters. My wife can watch them if I am in the same room with her...

mwhahaha. yeah I let my old man watch blu's as he takes care of them, but in general I dont speak about what I own. As far as most people are concerned my room is just empty with a bed in it. lol

[akn]

I think it's fine to politely say no and explain why it's nothing personal. I've lent out plenty of things... books, movies, music... and MOST of the time they come back a bit ruined. DVDs scratched, paperback book covers completely folded over (wtf???), music booklets bent, things "lost," etc.

It bothers me because I PAYED for that stuff, they didn't, so the least they could do is respect that fact. It might seem rude to not lend something to someone who wants it, but it's equally rude if they make an effort to get it from you and then don't even bother taking care of it.

[schweezie]

Originally Posted by Michael Bay Fan

Are they movies, or bricks of gold?

Here's how i imagine everyone in this thread.

My PRECIOUS!!!! - YouTube

Bwahahaha!!!!!!!

This is exactly how I am with my BRs. I will hop on someones back and bite off their finger with a quickness like an angry Gollum jk lol

[Crystal Clear HD]

My problem would be the way they handle my blus, especially the steelbook type cases, ones with slipcovers, digibooks, and digipaks. I don't want any fingerprints, scratches, dents, wear, or tear. I would probably loan them out in a DVD case that I don't care about. my collection is sadly very personal.

[The Dragon]

Originally Posted by thecroshow

I hope I'm not the only one. I guard my BD collection like I would guard my child (don't have one!). Last night I had a couple of friends over and they have a ps3 (SDTV) but don't really have any BDs.

Out of my collection they wanted to watch The Incredible Hulk. We watched it, they enjoyed it, they complimented my setup and collection. They said "Oh I wouldn't mind watching Ironman." I blurted "When you watch it, be sure to watch all the way to the final credits." Then the inevitable, they set up the trap for me and I walked right into it, "Can we borrow Ironman?"

I hesitated then said, "yeeeeah surrrrreee." I didn't want to, but I lent it anyway. =(

Part of the joy of BD is 99% of my friends are DVD only so nobody can borrow my movies. Am I alone here?

Sorry you fell for their bullshit. Did you ever get that disc back?

To answer your question, no, you're not alone in this thinking, and HELL NO, my collection stays home. I'm a COLLECTOR, not a DISTRIBUTOR.

Originally Posted by akn

I think it's fine to politely say no and explain why it's nothing personal. I've lent out plenty of things... books, movies, music... and MOST of the time they come back a bit ruined. DVDs scratched, paperback book covers completely folded over (wtf???), music booklets bent, things "lost," etc.

It bothers me because I PAYED for that stuff, they didn't, so the least they could do is respect that fact. It might seem rude to not lend something to someone who wants it, but it's equally rude if they make an effort to get it from you and then don't even bother taking care of it.

This is why I say what I said.

Once, when I got my first DVD, GLADIATOR, the Ridley Scott autographed edition, my gf asked to borrow it... I did NOT want to do it, but didn't want to seem selfish. Let's just say when I got it back it looked like a car ran over the case, the disc was totally scratched, I told her just keep it. I went right out and bought a new one. NEVER AGAIN.

[quickdraw]

I've loaned out books, CDs, DVDs and BDs to "friends" / family and have never received a single item back from them, ... EVER! When you ask them about it, they get kind of pissy and say they'll have to look around to find it, almost without exception. Of course, that's the last I hear about it, never to see the goods again. I've learned my lesson and never do it anymore to anyone, period. Even my wife knows not to ask me to lend something to her family, because she knows it won't end well. It's also kind of ironic how the people who "borrow" your stuff think you're some kind of dick for even asking for your stuff back.

It's sad, but a lot of people show no respect to others or themselves. I don't mind sharing things, but when people act like a-holes, I don't want to be the one to point it out to them. I think the more important question is what kind of person borrows something from others, either to destroy it or keep it?

[HD Goofnut]

Originally Posted by quickdraw

I've loaned out books, CDs, DVDs and BDs to "friends" / family and have never received a single item back from them, ... EVER! When you ask them about it, they get kind of pissy and say they'll have to look around to find it, almost without exception. Of course, that's the last I hear about it, never to see the goods again. I've learned my lesson and never do it anymore to anyone, period. Even my wife knows not to ask me to lend something to her family, because she knows it won't end well. It's also kind of ironic how the people who "borrow" your stuff think you're some kind of dick for even asking for your stuff back.

It's sad, but a lot of people show no respect to others or themselves. I don't mind sharing things, but when people act like a-holes, I don't want to be the one to point it out to them. I think the more important question is what kind of person borrows something from others, either to destroy it or keep it?

Well said. That about sums it up for my experience as well.

[ObiWanShinobi]

Originally Posted by HD Goofnut

Well said. That about sums it up for my experience as well.

Agreed. I've several things out right now that I've loaned and once I get them back, which I'm in the process of, I WILL NOT be loaning anything out anymore.

Currently my Game of Thrones Season 1, Apocolypto, and Breaking Bad Season 4 are in the hands of others.

I just get tired of loaning something out and when I feel like watching it, it becomes this pain in the ass to get it back. I've had to text message my friends countless times "hey man...do me a favor and throw "said movie" in your car so next time I see ya, I can get it back" to which they reply "sure...I'll do it right now!" and when I see them......nothing, they forgot. And this will go on for months if not damn near a year.

Ugh...I know my friends will b**ch when I tell them "nope...no more loaning stuff" but theyll get over it.

[The Dragon]

Originally Posted by quickdraw

I've loaned out books, CDs, DVDs and BDs to "friends" / family and have never received a single item back from them, ... EVER! When you ask them about it, they get kind of pissy and say they'll have to look around to find it, almost without exception. Of course, that's the last I hear about it, never to see the goods again. I've learned my lesson and never do it anymore to anyone, period. Even my wife knows not to ask me to lend something to her family, because she knows it won't end well. It's also kind of ironic how the people who "borrow" your stuff think you're some kind of dick for even asking for your stuff back.

It's sad, but a lot of people show no respect to others or themselves. I don't mind sharing things, but when people act like a-holes, I don't want to be the one to point it out to them. I think the more important question is what kind of person borrows something from others, either to destroy it or keep it?

YES, YES, YES! You've said it in full!

The response is always the same when you ask for your items back. What I've come to understand is a person who asks a collector or not even a collector-someone who has in their possession, something of value or recognition, if they may borrow it or to hold or lend said item, or the cost, it's not because they admire it. The hate the hell out of the fact you have it, want to remove your joy, and ruin the experience for you. Why else? Whenever I've encountered associates who've come into the experience of something, I tend to try and celebrate the moment with them; not detract from their experience by attempting to remove the fun from them.

WTF??!!

[technobhatt]

Hello guys, I am from India and I found this thread very interesting and full of emotions :-)

As far as my situation is concerned on the subject; I am the very first one to have a Bluray collection in my entire friends' group. Many of my friends or relatives don't even understand what a Bluray is ! All they know is..the word DVD !

In past, I had bought DVDs on few occassions and I used to give them to my friends without any second thought.
But nobody used to return until I asked them to return. And when those DVDs came back to me, there used to be lot of finger-prints on DVD surface. Even the plastic packaging were damaged most of the time.
And at last, I lost 90% of my DVDs because they never came back or came back in a scratched-up condition that can't be played anymore !!
Most of the bad-ass friends are like that only ;-)

I started buying Bluray discs starting last June after purchasing a Region Free Bluray player and having an entry level HT set-up.
I have been lucky so far, that none of my friends own Bluray players so far. So nobody near me is going to ask to borrow my Bluray discs for quite sometime

However, I have experienced from my past experience that I will not lend my Bluray discs to anybody without thinking twice.
I have burnt my ass to earn the money to buy these expensive Bluray movies I own !!
I will borrow only to few close friends who understand me well enough and know how to take care of a DVD/Bluray disc. Or to a true Bluray collector, who knows well how to handle Bluray discs !