Do you loan your Blu-rays out to friends? - Page 7 - Blu-ray Forum

MAPdead · 12-20-2008, 03:40 AM

I don't loan out anything I have learn from past mistakes. And I don't have to worry about any of my friends ( at the moment ) don't have a blu ray player or a PS3.

secret · 12-20-2008, 04:22 AM

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Originally Posted by BScratcha

I hate lending things out. I also hate when people offer to let me borrow something...and then bring it in unexpectedly for you. I usually watch it asap and get rid of it. I just don't like having it at my house.

me too.

secret · 12-20-2008, 04:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Sasso

After many bad experiences lending out my DVDs I would never lend out a blu. No matter who asks.

To this day I have never received a disc back in the same condition it was given.

To those saying it's greedy to say no: Bull. I payed for them with my money. I'm not obligated to loan them to whoever asks. That's what Blockbuster and Netflix are for.

Now there's someone with experience...seniority. hahah...

Someday, you might need something from them. It can be unrelated to a dvd, like maybe watching the kids while you go pick up something at the grocery store. Or it could be something like picking you up if your car breaks down on the freeway.

Depending on their personal values, they may remember the dvd situation and may or may not lend the helping that you need.

thecroshow · 12-20-2008, 05:47 AM

and i still don't have my copy of ironman back yet. it's not that i'm worried it will get damaged, just never know when i will get it back. the friends i lent it to, we see each other maybe once every 3 months?

CheapChildren · 12-20-2008, 06:02 AM

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Originally Posted by thecroshow

I hope I'm not the only one. I guard my BD collection like I would guard my child (don't have one!). Last night I had a couple of friends over and they have a ps3 (SDTV) but don't really have any BDs.

Out of my collection they wanted to watch The Incredible Hulk. We watched it, they enjoyed it, they complimented my setup and collection. They said "Oh I wouldn't mind watching Ironman." I blurted "When you watch it, be sure to watch all the way to the final credits." Then the inevitable, they set up the trap for me and I walked right into it, "Can we borrow Ironman?"

I hesitated then said, "yeeeeah surrrrreee." I didn't want to, but I lent it anyway. =(

Part of the joy of BD is 99% of my friends are DVD only so nobody can borrow my movies. Am I alone here?

If that were to come up I would tell them bluntly yet humorously "I will kill you if this comes back with a blemish" then I would get a generic CD jewel case and give it to them in that. But if you don't see this "friend" at least once every two weeks it should be an absolute NO as far as any lending goes! If it does not get returned in a timely manner you act on your original threat...

CheapChildren · 12-20-2008, 06:05 AM

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Originally Posted by thecroshow

and i still don't have my copy of ironman back yet. it's not that i'm worried it will get damaged, just never know when i will get it back. the friends i lent it to, we see each other maybe once every 3 months?

Oh no you didn't! I just responded to your original post and set my guidelines for lending and you broke the major deal breaker.

"But if you don't see this "friend" at least once every two weeks it should be an absolute NO as far as any lending goes!"

lobo81865 · 12-20-2008, 06:09 AM

I HATE loaning my stuff out too. I'm anal about my books, and movies. Every time I would loan someone a book I would get it back with the cover folded back! Luckily for me I'm the only person I know who has a Blu-Ray player, so I haven't been asked to borrow my movies yet.

secret · 12-20-2008, 06:18 AM

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Originally Posted by lobo81865

I HATE loaning my stuff out too. I'm anal about my books, and movies. Every time I would loan someone a book I would get it back with the cover folded back! Luckily for me I'm the only person I know who has a Blu-Ray player, so I haven't been asked to borrow my movies yet.

STOP having friends. That will solve your problem for sure.

jubei29 · 12-20-2008, 06:23 AM

My wife entered into a conversation about Rescue Dawn with a coworker one day and fell into that trap. "Can you ask your husband if I could borrow it?"
I've never even met the person yet I had to let them borrow it because everday my wife came home she said the person stopped by to check and see if she had brought it in. Luckily I got it back but I told her never to mention a movie we watched at the house again.lol

NickBalto · 12-21-2008, 08:13 AM

i recently lent a couple of blus and ps3 games to mate and i wanted to tell him so bad to take care of the discs but i didnt wanna sound like an ass.

JTStarkiller · 12-21-2008, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by NickBalto

i recently lent a couple of blus and ps3 games to mate and i wanted to tell him so bad to take care of the discs but i didnt wanna sound like an ass.

I hate being in that situation. I lent a friend of mine my X-Men 1.5 years back, and when I went to pick it up, the box was completely smashed, and the book wasn't in it. I looked around the room, and noticed it laying on the floor underneath his entertainment system. He didn't mention anything about the box.

I later lent out my Batman: The Animated Series box sets to a friend, only to get them back all scratched. I hate being an ass, but you just can't trust anyone to take care of your things, no matter how good a friend they are.

BoschRock · 12-21-2008, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by jubei29

My wife entered into a conversation about Rescue Dawn with a coworker one day and fell into that trap. "Can you ask your husband if I could borrow it?"
I've never even met the person yet I had to let them borrow it because everday my wife came home she said the person stopped by to check and see if she had brought it in. Luckily I got it back but I told her never to mention a movie we watched at the house again.lol

Just tell her co-workers you rent.

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Originally Posted by JTStarkiller

I hate being in that situation. I lent a friend of mine my X-Men 1.5 years back, and when I went to pick it up, the box was completely smashed, and the book wasn't in it. I looked around the room, and noticed it laying on the floor underneath his entertainment system. He didn't mention anything about the box.

I later lent out my Batman: The Animated Series box sets to a friend, only to get them back all scratched. I hate being an ass, but you just can't trust anyone to take care of your things, no matter how good a friend they are.

I practically had the same experience. Strangely, he didn't even act like he ruined the box--baffling.

I just try to avoid the question whenever possible. I usually say, "Oh, Billy Bob's borrowing that right now" or "I got to keep it, cause my G/F really wants to see it" or another random excuse.

LEAVE ME COLLECTION ALONE!

jgilliam1955 · 12-21-2008, 06:24 PM

I do not like to do it. Once I lent out my DVD & the wife & they both came back scratched. People do not take care of stuff that are not there's.

Underworld54 · 12-21-2008, 06:43 PM

I have burned enough to know not to lend my movies out. What ends up happening is they take them out after watching them and set them loose on top of the entertainment center or coffee table. With the dust on the surfaces just a little movement can scratch them. If the person wants to see the movie bad enough they can buy it like we did.

ground chuck · 12-22-2008, 05:00 PM

i was the early adopter out of my friends and co-workers so, i've been lucky. i have lent some out to a co-worker under the assumption that if they're not returned to me in the same condition that he'll be buying me new copies. so far so good.

clrb15 · 12-22-2008, 05:11 PM

This is so hilarious that I too am not the ONLY one like this!!! YEAH! to not lending!! LOL

I really DO NOT like lending people my DVDs or Blu-rays...I like for them to see my colletion, be interested in it, comment on the movies I have but please DO NOT ASK TO BORROW IT!!! And it's not only the disc I'm concerned about...it's also the packaging! There have been a few instances where I have let people borrow some movies and I put the disc in a CD case and when I hand it to them, they have this confused look on their faces all the time like, "where's the packaging??" of course when it's returned there are print marks and a few scratches "GAHHHHH!!!"

There's also times when they have borrowed it and watched it but haven't returned it in a while. I hate asking "Oh, by the way, are you done watching the movie I lent you?" it just seems rude, but I want my MOVIE BACK! That's why if I borrow stuff from other people I use it and return it ASAP.

I also do not like to ask people if I can borrow THEIR DVDs, Blu-rays or Games even if its something that I really want to see...I just let it go, and walk away. It just opens the doors for THEM to now ask ME if they can borrow any of my items.

Bottom line, If it's not yours, people are not going to take care of it (not all people are like this, but you have to agree that there are a few). It's really a bad thing for me because I don't let any of my family members (uncles, cousins or even trusted friends) borrow them.

If you want to watch any of my movies, come on over, but you're NEVER going to borrow it! Sorry. I know I may seem like a douche but I'm only like this with my MOVIES....other than that I'm a really nice and caring individual.

b0bby · 12-22-2008, 05:16 PM

so i let my friend borrow the godfather trilogy and he let his little 1.5 year old daughter break the inside of the case. the plastic piece inside that is holding the disks that you can flip like a page from a book is dangling from 1 joint instead of being held together by 2 joints. moral of the story is don't let anyone borrow anything that you care about. brother/sister/BFF/anyone...

i now tell everyone to buy their own sht and could careless if i sound stingy.

Dirk504 · 12-22-2008, 05:42 PM

If someone was on their deathbed and the only cure they had was to borrow one of my Blu Rays, then he'd be a dead S.O.B.!

I don't loan out the blus for any reason. I work 40+ hrs. a week, and I live with my girlfriend in a city I can't stand, my closest friends are back home..... needless to say, playing video games and watching blu rays are basically my main hobbies. Sure I let my some friends view my collection, and they're welcome to watch them at my house, but there's no way in he11 I'm gonna loan them out. I never ask to borrow other peoples stuff because if I want it, then I'd rent it or buy it myself.

Zen_Amako · 12-22-2008, 05:45 PM

We're collectors, but not everyone has that mentality. Some people can rip cases or leave discs lying around loose and not be concerned at all. If the box is smashed, they don't even see the problem. That's because they don't see movies (or books) as collector's items. They're looked at as disposable entertainment. These are the people you need to be careful about lending stuff to.

dadkins · 12-22-2008, 05:51 PM

Some of you have some f***ed up friends then.
I will lend out just about anything to my friends, they know if they break it, they bought it.

I will end up with a brand new one and they get to keep the borked one.

Maybe it's time to re-evaluate your friends.

12-21-2008, 06:24 PM	#133
jgilliam1955 Member Member since:Nov 2008 Blu-ray reviews: 7	Lending out stuff I do not like to do it. Once I lent out my DVD & the wife & they both came back scratched. People do not take care of stuff that are not there's.

12-22-2008, 05:11 PM	#136
clrb15 Active Member Member since:Sep 2008 4K collection:25 Blu-ray collection:552 DVD collection:295 Blu-ray reviews: 24	This is so hilarious that I too am not the ONLY one like this!!! YEAH! to not lending!! LOL I really DO NOT like lending people my DVDs or Blu-rays...I like for them to see my colletion, be interested in it, comment on the movies I have but please DO NOT ASK TO BORROW IT!!! And it's not only the disc I'm concerned about...it's also the packaging! There have been a few instances where I have let people borrow some movies and I put the disc in a CD case and when I hand it to them, they have this confused look on their faces all the time like, "where's the packaging??" of course when it's returned there are print marks and a few scratches "GAHHHHH!!!" There's also times when they have borrowed it and watched it but haven't returned it in a while. I hate asking "Oh, by the way, are you done watching the movie I lent you?" it just seems rude, but I want my MOVIE BACK! That's why if I borrow stuff from other people I use it and return it ASAP. I also do not like to ask people if I can borrow THEIR DVDs, Blu-rays or Games even if its something that I really want to see...I just let it go, and walk away. It just opens the doors for THEM to now ask ME if they can borrow any of my items. Bottom line, If it's not yours, people are not going to take care of it (not all people are like this, but you have to agree that there are a few). It's really a bad thing for me because I don't let any of my family members (uncles, cousins or even trusted friends) borrow them. If you want to watch any of my movies, come on over, but you're NEVER going to borrow it! Sorry. I know I may seem like a douche but I'm only like this with my MOVIES....other than that I'm a really nice and caring individual. Last edited by clrb15; 12-22-2008 at 05:38 PM.

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12-20-2008, 03:40 AM	#121
MAPdead Power Member Member since:Jun 2008 Location:North Carolina 4K collection:918 Blu-ray collection:2683 Blu-ray reviews:23	I don't loan out anything I have learn from past mistakes. And I don't have to worry about any of my friends ( at the moment ) don't have a blu ray player or a PS3.

12-20-2008, 05:47 AM	#124
thecroshow Power Member Member since:Jul 2008 Location:Victoria BC Blu-ray collection:459 Blu-ray reviews:10 Trading Score:1	and i still don't have my copy of ironman back yet. it's not that i'm worried it will get damaged, just never know when i will get it back. the friends i lent it to, we see each other maybe once every 3 months?

12-20-2008, 06:09 AM	#127
lobo81865 Blu-ray Guru Member since:Aug 2008 Home Theater Gallery:1 4K collection:562 Blu-ray collection:3659 DVD collection:3330 MA collection:1323 Digital collection:3019 iTunes collection:1553 Prime collection:950 Blu-ray reviews:1 Trading Score:102	I HATE loaning my stuff out too. I'm anal about my books, and movies. Every time I would loan someone a book I would get it back with the cover folded back! Luckily for me I'm the only person I know who has a Blu-Ray player, so I haven't been asked to borrow my movies yet.

12-20-2008, 06:23 AM	#129
jubei29 Senior Member Member since:Feb 2008 Blu-ray collection:71	My wife entered into a conversation about Rescue Dawn with a coworker one day and fell into that trap. "Can you ask your husband if I could borrow it?" I've never even met the person yet I had to let them borrow it because everday my wife came home she said the person stopped by to check and see if she had brought it in. Luckily I got it back but I told her never to mention a movie we watched at the house again.lol

12-21-2008, 08:13 AM	#130
NickBalto Member Member since:Aug 2008 Blu-ray collection:120 Blu-ray reviews:4	i recently lent a couple of blus and ps3 games to mate and i wanted to tell him so bad to take care of the discs but i didnt wanna sound like an ass.

12-21-2008, 06:43 PM	#134
Underworld54 Blu-ray Count Member since:Dec 2008 Location:Albany NY Blu-ray collection:163 Blu-ray reviews:4 Trading Score:15	I have burned enough to know not to lend my movies out. What ends up happening is they take them out after watching them and set them loose on top of the entertainment center or coffee table. With the dust on the surfaces just a little movement can scratch them. If the person wants to see the movie bad enough they can buy it like we did.

12-22-2008, 05:00 PM	#135
ground chuck Power Member Member since:May 2007 Location:Charm City Blu-ray collection:75 Blu-ray reviews:48 Trading Score:18	i was the early adopter out of my friends and co-workers so, i've been lucky. i have lent some out to a co-worker under the assumption that if they're not returned to me in the same condition that he'll be buying me new copies. so far so good.

12-22-2008, 05:16 PM	#137
b0bby Blu-ray Guru Member since:Sep 2008 Location:North Carolina Blu-ray collection:153	so i let my friend borrow the godfather trilogy and he let his little 1.5 year old daughter break the inside of the case. the plastic piece inside that is holding the disks that you can flip like a page from a book is dangling from 1 joint instead of being held together by 2 joints. moral of the story is don't let anyone borrow anything that you care about. brother/sister/BFF/anyone... i now tell everyone to buy their own sht and could careless if i sound stingy.

12-22-2008, 05:42 PM	#138
Dirk504 Blu-ray Samurai Member since:Jul 2008 Home Theater Gallery:25 4K collection:152 Blu-ray collection:367 Blu-ray reviews:4	If someone was on their deathbed and the only cure they had was to borrow one of my Blu Rays, then he'd be a dead S.O.B.! I don't loan out the blus for any reason. I work 40+ hrs. a week, and I live with my girlfriend in a city I can't stand, my closest friends are back home..... needless to say, playing video games and watching blu rays are basically my main hobbies. Sure I let my some friends view my collection, and they're welcome to watch them at my house, but there's no way in he11 I'm gonna loan them out. I never ask to borrow other peoples stuff because if I want it, then I'd rent it or buy it myself.

12-22-2008, 05:45 PM	#139
Zen_Amako Blu-ray Samurai Top contributor Member since:Nov 2008 Location:Northern VA, USA 4K collection:255 Blu-ray collection:659 Blu-ray reviews: 3 Trading Score:13	We're collectors, but not everyone has that mentality. Some people can rip cases or leave discs lying around loose and not be concerned at all. If the box is smashed, they don't even see the problem. That's because they don't see movies (or books) as collector's items. They're looked at as disposable entertainment. These are the people you need to be careful about lending stuff to.

12-22-2008, 05:51 PM	#140
dadkins Blu-ray Samurai Member since:Jan 2007 Location:Hercules, CA Blu-ray collection:35 Blu-ray reviews:2	Some of you have some f***ed up friends then. I will lend out just about anything to my friends, they know if they break it, they bought it. I will end up with a brand new one and they get to keep the borked one. Maybe it's time to re-evaluate your friends.

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