The "What's on your mind?" thread

[civiclx]

Originally Posted by VictoryAtNight

[Show spoiler]

Play Elden Ring or watch a movie……

Play Elden Ring or watch a movie……

Play Elden Ring or watch a movie……

You'd start a movie this late? I forget where you are but it's at least 10pm there. I watched Dungeons & Dragons: Honor Among Thieves and started it before 6pm I think. I ended up taking a couple short naps while I was watching so it took me a bit longer than it should have.

[VictoryAtNight]

Originally Posted by civiclx

You'd start a movie this late? I forget where you are but it's at least 10pm there. I watched Dungeons & Dragons: Honor Among Thieves and started it before 6pm I think. I ended up taking a couple short naps while I was watching so it took me a bit longer than it should have.

I’m 3 hours behind you.

If I watch a movie, I am looking for something that is 90 mins or up to 2 hrs max runtime.

[Batman1980]

Decided to go for today's 5 mile run right now, don't think it'd be good for the back tattoo I'm getting this afternoon if I were to run afterwards. Tomorrow would probably be fine but excessive sweating on a fresh tattoo is probably not a good idea. Plus all that shaking and bouncing. Also realized earlier today a back tattoo means I won't be lifting weights again till next Tuesday, oh well.

[fighthefutureofhd]

Originally Posted by civiclx

If you had told me two years ago that I would have the means to return to Europe, but I wouldn't have the interest, I would have been shocked. If you know me, you know how much I love traveling and how I've been eager to get back to Europe since my last trip in 2015. When I first started back with the USPS, I was excited to think that I might be able to make it back within a year or so. I was thinking about Slovenia as I've had an online friend for several years who I would like to meet someday.

But now because I've been thinking so much about buying a new toy, I think that's taken the wind out of my sails in regards to traveling. Now, I'm starting to waver with my desire for a motorcycle or SUV so that has me thinking more about traveling, either to Europe or just here in the States.
So yeah, this has been on my mind quite a bit lately. I still have desire to travel. I want to get back to Europe someday. I want to go to Vermont for the first time. I want to see the Colorado Rockies and see Lake Louise in Canada someday. But I also want a motorcycle and a Bronco Sport.

Anyway, that's off my chest. I won't mention traveling again for at least a couple weeks

Well, all I hear all day long at Blu-ray.com is how great traveling is there or how wonderful traveling was here, Traveling, Traveling, Traveling!

[civiclx]

Originally Posted by fighthefutureofhd

Well, all I hear all day long at Blu-ray.com is how great traveling is there or how wonderful traveling was here, Traveling, Traveling, Traveling!

It’s wonderful and I think everyone should see as much of the world as they can, if they have the desire to do so.

[civiclx]

Originally Posted by VictoryAtNight

I’m 3 hours behind you.

If I watch a movie, I am looking for something that is 90 mins or up to 2 hrs max runtime.

You're in Hawaii? I think I thought you were from California or on the East Coast.

[Batman1980]

Thinking about how the back of my left shoulder hurts from today's tattoo. Reading more of Boatman's Daughter before dinner.

[Fors*]

Originally Posted by civiclx

What a coincidence with me recently mentioning that I was thinking about applying for another credit card. I checked the mail this morning when I got home from work and I see that I was granted a credit extension from $4,700 to $5,700 so hopefully that will make a difference with my score

I got in serious credit card debt after college and it really set me back. Took me many years before I got out from under that debt (I had to close all of the cards as part of the payoff process).....and once I did I stayed away from using credit cards. I was out of debt, but my credit score took the brunt of it in the meantime. Eventually, my score slowly rose and I applied for a small card just to rebuild my score (I hardly used it and always paid it off every month....but they were charging me an interest rate of like 35% because my score was not very high at the time). After quite a few years of doing that, my score recovered some more and I added a few other credit cards with higher balances and better interest rates.

Now, I just got an offer today with my bank (USAA) for a credit card and decided it was time to add another to increase my score. In a matter of 2 minutes (they already had all my info) I was approved for a $14,000 credit card with a 0% interest rate for the initial 12 months. Happy to say with the new card, I right now have about $25,000 to $30,000 credit available, but I have a $0 total balance on all of my cards....basically doubling my available credit. That should be a nice jump in my credit score!

[Batman1980]

Iowa supervisor position phone screening will be Wednesday morning, hopefully it'll go well and I'll have a nice Iowa job waiting for me when I get up there.

[fighthefutureofhd]

Are you moving to Iowa?

Originally Posted by Fors*

I got in serious credit card debt after college and it really set me back. Took me many years before I got out from under that debt (I had to close all of the cards as part of the payoff process).....and once I did I stayed away from using credit cards. I was out of debt, but my credit score took the brunt of it in the meantime. Eventually, my score slowly rose and I applied for a small card just to rebuild my score (I hardly used it and always paid it off every month....but they were charging me an interest rate of like 35% because my score was not very high at the time). After quite a few years of doing that, my score recovered some more and I added a few other credit cards with higher balances and better interest rates.

Now, I just got an offer today with my bank (USAA) for a credit card and decided it was time to add another to increase my score. In a matter of 2 minutes (they already had all my info) I was approved for a $14,000 credit card with a 0% interest rate for the initial 12 months. Happy to say with the new card, I right now have about $25,000 to $30,000 credit available, but I have a $0 total balance on all of my cards....basically doubling my available credit. That should be a nice jump in my credit score!

I wish I could be in your shoes. Sadly, I cannot. Me and money go together like oil and water. Or politicians and an honest man. I think a homeless person could spend money more wisely. I just spent almost an hour trying to pick out some adult movies that I can buy with PayPal pay in 4 so I only have to pay seven to eight dollars right now. That's all I can afford. Yet, with only $60 something to my name til next week and dinner/concert this weekend I shouldn't be doing it at all. Thankfully, cooler heads prevail. God, this depression is going to be the death of me.

[Fors*]

Originally Posted by fighthefutureofhd

Are you moving to Iowa?




I wish I could be in your shoes. Sadly, I cannot. Me and money go together like oil and water. Or politicians and an honest man. I think a homeless person could spend money more wisely. I just spent almost an hour trying to pick out some adult movies that I can buy with PayPal pay in 4 so I only have to pay seven to eight dollars right now. That's all I can afford. Yet, with only $60 something to my name til next week and dinner/concert this weekend I shouldn't be doing it at all. Thankfully, cooler heads prevail. God, this depression is going to be the death of me.

Life is not about how many times you get knocked down, instead it is about how many times you get back up.

Myself, with my credit card debt after college, I had to live with my parents for 10 years to pay it off. Why? because I also had student loans. Student loans I personally was on the hook for, even after spending 3 years in the Army after high school to get the GI College Fund because my parents could not afford to pay for college. So I made a choice and joined the Army to get some money for college. But even with that money, it still was not enough to pay for all of the tuition, room & board, etc....so I was 34 before I paid it all off and could finally afford to move out (with a roommate). Such is life.

Then I met someone in my late 30's.....dated for 3 years, got married, had a house built and added new debt (no kids)...only to get divorced less than 1 year after marriage. Took that debt with me, but then met someone else less than 1 year after the divorce and we were married for 17 years, this time with 2 kids. Got divorced again and so I added even more debt with my 2nd marriage and had to pay child support on top of everything else. Had to move back in with my parents at age 53 so I could save money and payoff the debt again...which I did in 2 years. Did I mention I lost my job in those 2 years thru a merger? I had to find a new job, which I did within a month.

Now, since last June, 2023, I have no debt, went ahead and bought another house, my son now lives with me (instead of with his mom for what was those 2 years), my daughter is now over 18 (so more more child support!) and I got a new job with my current employer.

My point is.......life throws all kinds of crap at you, some you can control and some you can't. You make some bad choices and some good ones and deal with the consequences. But you always have a choice.......to either stay down or get back up......we all deal with personal hardships (some we can control, some we can't).....but you always have a choice to do something about it.

[Waboman]

[fighthefutureofhd]

THANK GOD!!! Movie night is on!!!

Originally Posted by Fors*

Life is not about how many times you get knocked down, instead it is about how many times you get back up.

Myself, with my credit card debt after college, I had to live with my parents for 10 years to pay it off. Why? because I also had student loans. Student loans I personally was on the hook for, even after spending 3 years in the Army after high school to get the GI College Fund because my parents could not afford to pay for college. So I made a choice and joined the Army to get some money for college. But even with that money, it still was not enough to pay for all of the tuition, room & board, etc....so I was 34 before I paid it all off and could finally afford to move out (with a roommate). Such is life.

Then I met someone in my late 30's.....dated for 3 years, got married, had a house built and added new debt (no kids)...only to get divorced less than 1 year after marriage. Took that debt with me, but then met someone else less than 1 year after the divorce and we were married for 17 years, this time with 2 kids. Got divorced again and so I added even more debt with my 2nd marriage and had to pay child support on top of everything else. Had to move back in with my parents at age 53 so I could save money and payoff the debt again...which I did in 2 years. Did I mention I lost my job in those 2 years thru a merger? I had to find a new job, which I did within a month.

Now, since last June, 2023, I have no debt, went ahead and bought another house, my son now lives with me (instead of with his mom for what was those 2 years), my daughter is now over 18 (so more more child support!) and I got a new job with my current employer.

My point is.......life throws all kinds of crap at you, some you can control and some you can't. You make some bad choices and some good ones and deal with the consequences. But you always have a choice.......to either stay down or get back up......we all deal with personal hardships (some we can control, some we can't).....but you always have a choice to do something about it.

I COMPLETELY agree. In a normal sense though. When you have some of the mental and physical issues that I am dealing with though it doesn't always make it quite that easy. That's not me wringing my hands and saying I can't help this. Not at all. That's just to say it's harder for some with these same issues to just get back up time and time again. My fiancé is a great example of that. He kept getting knocked down. Yes, he got back up but it was a great deal to do so and very painful. Eventually, he couldn't take the constant up/down that life can be and he took his life. He had severe mental health issues that he just couldn't overcome. Some people are like that. So, yes I still COMPLETELY agree with you under normal circumstances.

Everyone's got their own burdens and personal hardships. Most can navigate through that and overcome it. While some will struggle with navigating through and may not overcome it. Of course, they may overcome it as well. But the time it takes to overcome those obstacles may be MUCH longer than those without any extra health issues dragging the curve. I'm not trying to throw a pity party at all. At least that's not my intention. It's just one of the weeks that are harder to shake than others. I have my good weeks as well. And I have lots to be grateful for. This is just taking longer to shake off than usual.

And like you, I've had a fair number of hardships in life. Losing my fiancé was the first. That sent me down a long hallway of clinical depression that I have been working on for 15 years. I would've been in a much better place than I am right now if that was it. Or if it was situations that could be easily handled, so to speak. As it is though, it was not. Eight years after losing my fiancé, I lost my mom rather suddenly. So I was effectively back in the same place I was 8 years prior. Then, after finally seeing some clearing, my dad passed the day after Christmas last year.

Again, these are not things to be like "Woe is me" or anything. These are just explanations as to why it's been harder for me to overcome than it may be for others. I tend towards depression and bipolar anyway. These events just make it worse. I am working on all this though with medication and therapy. it's just going to take a while. The first year of losing someone is the hardest and it doesn't get easier each time you lose someone. I will have some good soon. I just need to get through this week and work on things.

As with my original post. I was just commenting on how money and me don't get along well. We never have. Autistic people can have that problem. We don't tend to see the good or the bad of what we do financially and can act rather impulsively. I am aware of that and I hope to make progress with that. I am glad that you responded. Conversations like this can be very helpful in so many ways. Thanks for that. I hope you have an excellent weekend.

[Batman1980]

And now I have 2 Iowa supervisor positions to phone screen for next week, nice. Will barely get to read today but would like to keep the streak alive so even a little reading is better than none at all.

[Waboman]

My water heater went the other night. Leaked onto my carpet. We have fans, rags, and a dehumidifier sucking up the moisture. Grumble grumble. Because it happened close to the weekend I have wait. New water heater is getting installed Monday morning. Until then we’re doing the wet/dry rags truffle shuffle.

[stvn1974]

The pecan tree in the back yard is so full of pecans that the branches are dragging the ground. They aren't ready to be picked yet so hopefully the squirrels leave enough for some pies later in the year.

[LordoftheRings]

[civiclx]

I'm listening to Rudimental's These Days on YouTube and for some reason, this movie quote popped into my head. LOVE this movie!!

You've bled with Wallace. Now bleed with me!

[sfmarine]

Originally Posted by Waboman

My water heater went the other night. Leaked onto my carpet. We have fans, rags, and a dehumidifier sucking up the moisture. Grumble grumble. Because it happened close to the weekend I have wait. New water heater is getting installed Monday morning. Until then we’re doing the wet/dry rags truffle shuffle.

That sucks. Ya’ll should go tankless.

Got a rogue mouse and I am determined to get the bastard tonight.

[civiclx]

Originally Posted by sfmarine

That sucks. Ya’ll should go tankless.

Got a rogue mouse and I am determined to get the bastard tonight.

Dude, are you that hungry?? Eat a snickers!