Ugh... The Breakup Methods Thread

[Chordata]

Here's the rule:

It's ok for you to be friends with your ex's. I am friends with 95% of mine and I'd have no problem being friends with the other 5%.

My wife, however, is not allowed to be friends with any of her ex's.

[Deadset]

Originally Posted by O_V_N

Here's the rule:

It's ok for you to be friends with your ex's. I am friends with 95% of mine and I'd have no problem being friends with the other 5%.

My wife, however, is not allowed to be friends with any of her ex's.

My wife pretty much wouldn't allow that rule for me

But to OP and anyone going through it, it'll get better eventually and you'll find someone else. I usually do the band aide approach....plus when you get older everyone moves around for jobs etc...so it's tough to keep in touch anyway.

Go out with the boys, have a cold beer and turn your focus to something else till you're over her.

[MCT]

I havent had a steady girlfriend since 2004. That's how bitter I am over my last breakup. Crazy ass Dominican women. Soured me on dating completely. Bachelor for life.

[JJ]

I'm mad direct from the getgo. I don't put up with no BS or nonsense. My happiness comes #1 - if I'm not content, I'm outty - I make it clear what the situation is from the outset with a woman, whether its an f-buddy, dating, or a relationship. This, I find, leads to less drama and situations later.

If you have valid reasons for breaking up with a woman - state them, state your objective, and move on with it. No reason to tiptoe around the tulips.

With my exs, it took some time, but after pretty much avoiding each other like the plague, I became friends with them again over varying periods of time - with one, it took about 5 years (lol) and with another it took around 6 months. But if you value them as a person but not as a significant other, then sure, why not keep them as a friend?

LOL @ MCT - I dated a dominican 4 years back - she's the only one of my ex's I never re-made friends with - gorgeous, but with no future - haven't heard from her since.