Am I in the Friend Zone? - Page 2 - Blu-ray Forum

Blu-Benny · 03-01-2010, 02:58 PM

i agree w/the other posters....tell her how u feel.

i had a friend that was dating a buddy of mine, i knew she liked me "that" way but i never acted on it b/c i would never hurt a close friend like that.

well, i ended up w/a girl who is now my wife, and me & this other girl who was a friend of mine lost touch.

and it really hurts b/c we were such good friends in school, i hate to think of what we could've had if she had acted on her feelings.

don't pass up on a chance to be happy man!!!

LeAnn · 03-01-2010, 03:07 PM

Teabaggins and Macruz have it well said.

Is it possible that since you never did make a move on those first dates that SHE thinks you are cool with the best friends bit?
Guys are not always easy to read, especially when you work with them or generally are often in one another's company. It could be that she does in fact feel something for you and is really just waiting for you to either declare it or make a move.

As far as if you started seeing other girls... it could only make things more complicated if you still felt something for the other one...
I would suggest you resolve this issue, by just pointing out that you have been interested in being more than bffs but that you respect that she is in a relationship. You would like to clarify with her that calling all the time muddles the boundaries that she seems to keep putting up and that it is not fair to her current bf or you.

mikejet · 03-01-2010, 03:14 PM

My wife has more male friends than female friends. It's just the way it works out sometimes. She grew up with two brothers(one older and one younger).

There were times in college when she would be assigned a group project and the partner would be really into working on it and putting in a ton of effort then when they found out she had a bf they would lose interest.

All of her male friends have admitted to at least at one time be attracted/interested in her.

Such is life....

If a woman show even the remotest interest or friendliness to a guy the guy automatically thinks that they are interested in them.

tilallr1 · 03-01-2010, 03:15 PM

I think there is some great advice here, but let me also mention:

Distance yourself a bit. Don't always make yourself available for conversation. DO NOT show you are desperate to talk with this girl. Go out on other dates, talk to her about those dates. See her reaction. Test the waters. If this is difficult, make shit up. But be sure to have a great cover story. DO NOT GET CAUGHT IN A LIE. I bet you have been the great listener all this time, well now its her turn to listen.

Timing is everything! Make sure to let her know your feelings when you think she would be the most responsive to them, maybe after a fight with her existing bf, or after a really heartfelt conversation. Jumping the gun might cause you to miss your shot.

Finally, might I strongly suggest expressing your feelings in person. Makes it way too easy for her to back out over the phone. SEE her reaction. It can make a world of difference.

silversnake · 03-01-2010, 03:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Teabaggins

Just Friends is highly underrated. the first 1 hour is hilarious but it loses much steam near the end. Chris Klein is awesome in it as well.

I've seen it many many times, the wife loves it too.

Ya it's really good. Especially the brothers interaction, it's hilarious

Back on topic, I think you should tell her how you feel. Do it !

thePhoenix · 03-01-2010, 03:47 PM

You are definitely in the friend zone. You might be able to get some rebound lovin' if the guy she's dating dumps her, but I wouldn't count on it. The best thing you can do is avoid her like the plague! Stop answering her calls dude!

MaCruz · 03-01-2010, 03:51 PM

I knew it. It was going to be a 1 star thread

Teabaggins · 03-01-2010, 04:00 PM

that is pretty sad, even after my hilarious post.

jw · 03-01-2010, 04:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MaCruz

I knew it. It was going to be a 1 star thread

That and its been reported as well, probably the same person

Teabaggins · 03-01-2010, 04:15 PM

reported for what?

MaCruz · 03-01-2010, 04:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jwbbud

That and its been reported as well, probably the same person

Glad that you and bluray.com is hunting these members down.

jw · 03-01-2010, 04:27 PM

nah, I just LOLz

Teabaggins · 03-01-2010, 04:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MaCruz

Glad that you and bluray.com is hunting these members down.

yes! we will find them...and they will be crushed!

Beta Man · 03-01-2010, 04:33 PM

when you asked her to come over to watch a movie, and she said her boyfriend wouldn't like that........ were you asking her to come watch a "Travis Bickle first-date" type of film??????

MCT · 03-01-2010, 04:38 PM

Fellas, she knows how I feel. And about the phone calls....she rarely ever brings up her man. It's not like I sit there and have to listen to the ramblings of a woman who thinks I'm Dr. Phil. We just talk about regular stuff, like how our day went, sex, things of that nature.

and I'm going to be candid here...as attracted as I am to her, even if I could, I don't think I want to be in a relationship with her. I'm a certified cromagnon. I want the panties. I guess thats the main reason I haven't cut her off yet, in the hopes that if their relationship ends, I can get some rebound poon. She's admitted to me that her man is not good in bed.

but it only came out from her after we got on the subject of my ex (who I'm still banging). I still do my own single thing, and its not like I have put my life on hold for her. I want to bed her badly, and I think there's similar wants between us, but I know she isn't cool with infidelilty.

MCT · 03-01-2010, 04:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beta Man

when you asked her to come over to watch a movie, and she said her boyfriend wouldn't like that........ were you asking her to come watch a "Travis Bickle first-date" type of film??????

haha nah, that's a dork move. I was going to watch Black Dynamite with her.

brettallica · 03-01-2010, 04:40 PM

One thing to worry about, MCT, is that if she is talking a bunch to you every night and kind of not really attentive to her own man and/or complaining to you about him all the time, you could find yourself in the same situation as that guy if you two were to ever hook up. Would you like that if you were the man and she was off talking to some other guy? Just something to think about. It sounds like she's setting herself up for some cheating. What happens when she dumps her current man to be with you; and then gets tired of you and (possibly) cheats on you? Not saying that she will, but you've got to think in terms of history here: once a cheater, always a cheater. You might be next. I would be a heck of a lot happier if I didn't "steal" a girl away from another man with whom she's already committed; to me that seems wrong. Plus, it kind of sets the table and shows what kind of person she is (or might be — I don't really know her). I mean will she just jump ship again if you're the man and she finds somebody "better"?

I really don't like the idea of being involved as much as it sounds like you are unless there is some sort of official commitment on both ends, but everyone is different. I personally stay out of just about any relationships with females nowadays; it keeps things a lot simpler in life, being a married man with kids and all...

Best of luck!

EDIT — just read this post:

Quote:

Originally Posted by MCT

Fellas, she knows how I feel. And about the phone calls....she rarely ever brings up her man. It's not like I sit there and have to listen to the ramblings of a woman who thinks I'm Dr. Phil. We just talk about regular stuff, like how our day went, sex, things of that nature.

and I'm going to be candid here...as attracted as I am to her, even if I could, I don't think I want to be in a relationship with her. I'm a certified cromagnon. I want the panties. I guess thats the main reason I haven't cut her off yet, in the hopes that if their relationship ends, I can get some rebound poon. She's admitted to me that her man is not good in bed.

but it only came out from her after we got on the subject of my ex (who I'm still banging). I still do my own single thing, and its not like I have put my life on hold for her. I want to bed her badly, and I think there's similar wants between us, but I know she isn't cool with infidelilty.

It sounds like you know what you want.

MaCruz · 03-01-2010, 04:40 PM

You got some pics MCT? I know we are in the same town so holla!

Beta Man · 03-01-2010, 04:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MaCruz

You got some pics MCT? I know we are in the same town so holla!

LeAnn!!!!!!

Teabaggins · 03-01-2010, 04:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MCT

I'm a certified cromagnon........ I want the panties........ I want to bed her badly..

dude, I hear it's pretty easy...

03-01-2010, 03:15 PM	#24
tilallr1 Blu-ray Samurai Top ranked HT gallery Top contributor Member since:Dec 2007 Location:Great White North Home Theater Gallery:410 4K collection:78 Blu-ray collection:2009 DVD collection:2598 Blu-ray reviews: 33 Trading Score:248	I think there is some great advice here, but let me also mention: Distance yourself a bit. Don't always make yourself available for conversation. DO NOT show you are desperate to talk with this girl. Go out on other dates, talk to her about those dates. See her reaction. Test the waters. If this is difficult, make shit up. But be sure to have a great cover story. DO NOT GET CAUGHT IN A LIE. I bet you have been the great listener all this time, well now its her turn to listen. Timing is everything! Make sure to let her know your feelings when you think she would be the most responsive to them, maybe after a fight with her existing bf, or after a really heartfelt conversation. Jumping the gun might cause you to miss your shot. Finally, might I strongly suggest expressing your feelings in person. Makes it way too easy for her to back out over the phone. SEE her reaction. It can make a world of difference. Last edited by tilallr1; 03-01-2010 at 03:44 PM.

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03-01-2010, 02:58 PM	#21
Blu-Benny Michael Bay's #1 Fan Top contributor Member since:Aug 2008 Location:Wisconsin Home Theater Gallery:39 Blu-ray collection:552 DVD collection:108 Trading Score:138	i agree w/the other posters....tell her how u feel. i had a friend that was dating a buddy of mine, i knew she liked me "that" way but i never acted on it b/c i would never hurt a close friend like that. well, i ended up w/a girl who is now my wife, and me & this other girl who was a friend of mine lost touch. and it really hurts b/c we were such good friends in school, i hate to think of what we could've had if she had acted on her feelings. don't pass up on a chance to be happy man!!!

03-01-2010, 03:07 PM	#22
LeAnn Blu-ray Samurai Top ranked HT gallery Member since:Aug 2009 Home Theater Gallery:48 Blu-ray collection:303 Trading Score:9	Teabaggins and Macruz have it well said. Is it possible that since you never did make a move on those first dates that SHE thinks you are cool with the best friends bit? Guys are not always easy to read, especially when you work with them or generally are often in one another's company. It could be that she does in fact feel something for you and is really just waiting for you to either declare it or make a move. As far as if you started seeing other girls... it could only make things more complicated if you still felt something for the other one... I would suggest you resolve this issue, by just pointing out that you have been interested in being more than bffs but that you respect that she is in a relationship. You would like to clarify with her that calling all the time muddles the boundaries that she seems to keep putting up and that it is not fair to her current bf or you.

03-01-2010, 03:14 PM	#23
mikejet Banned Member since:Sep 2008 Location:Los Angeles, CA Blu-ray reviews:5 Trading Score:29	My wife has more male friends than female friends. It's just the way it works out sometimes. She grew up with two brothers(one older and one younger). There were times in college when she would be assigned a group project and the partner would be really into working on it and putting in a ton of effort then when they found out she had a bf they would lose interest. All of her male friends have admitted to at least at one time be attracted/interested in her. Such is life.... If a woman show even the remotest interest or friendliness to a guy the guy automatically thinks that they are interested in them.

03-01-2010, 03:47 PM	#26
thePhoenix Power Member Member since:Aug 2009 Location:Believeland Home Theater Gallery:7 Blu-ray collection:106 Trading Score:11	You are definitely in the friend zone. You might be able to get some rebound lovin' if the guy she's dating dumps her, but I wouldn't count on it. The best thing you can do is avoid her like the plague! Stop answering her calls dude!

03-01-2010, 03:51 PM	#27
MaCruz Community Gaming Moderator Top ranked HT gallery Top contributor Member since:Mar 2009 Location:Jacksonville, FL Home Theater Gallery:160 4K collection:104 Blu-ray collection:958 DVD collection:18 MA collection:394 Digital collection:570 iTunes collection:527 Prime collection:192 Blu-ray reviews: 23 Trading Score:139	I knew it. It was going to be a 1 star thread

03-01-2010, 04:00 PM	#28
Teabaggins Blu-ray Samurai Member since:Aug 2008	that is pretty sad, even after my hilarious post.

03-01-2010, 04:15 PM	#30
Teabaggins Blu-ray Samurai Member since:Aug 2008	reported for what?

03-01-2010, 04:27 PM	#32
jw Blu-ray Archduke Top contributor Member since:Apr 2007 Location:USA Trading Score:519	nah, I just LOLz

03-01-2010, 04:33 PM	#34
Beta Man Moderator Top contributor Member since:Jan 2008 Location:Juuuuuuuust A Bit Outside.... Home Theater Gallery:4 Blu-ray collection:268 Blu-ray reviews: 18 Trading Score:25	when you asked her to come over to watch a movie, and she said her boyfriend wouldn't like that........ were you asking her to come watch a "Travis Bickle first-date" type of film??????

03-01-2010, 04:38 PM	#35
MCT Blu-ray Ninja Member since:Nov 2008 Blu-ray collection:499 Blu-ray reviews: 8 Trading Score:1	Fellas, she knows how I feel. And about the phone calls....she rarely ever brings up her man. It's not like I sit there and have to listen to the ramblings of a woman who thinks I'm Dr. Phil. We just talk about regular stuff, like how our day went, sex, things of that nature. and I'm going to be candid here...as attracted as I am to her, even if I could, I don't think I want to be in a relationship with her. I'm a certified cromagnon. I want the panties. I guess thats the main reason I haven't cut her off yet, in the hopes that if their relationship ends, I can get some rebound poon. She's admitted to me that her man is not good in bed. but it only came out from her after we got on the subject of my ex (who I'm still banging). I still do my own single thing, and its not like I have put my life on hold for her. I want to bed her badly, and I think there's similar wants between us, but I know she isn't cool with infidelilty.

03-01-2010, 04:40 PM	#38
MaCruz Community Gaming Moderator Top ranked HT gallery Top contributor Member since:Mar 2009 Location:Jacksonville, FL Home Theater Gallery:160 4K collection:104 Blu-ray collection:958 DVD collection:18 MA collection:394 Digital collection:570 iTunes collection:527 Prime collection:192 Blu-ray reviews: 23 Trading Score:139	You got some pics MCT? I know we are in the same town so holla!

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