Wife just left me so I contacted my brother-in-law’s ex wife what to do now

[HiI'mBrian]

Originally Posted by computergeek

sounds like you guys are too young

that's the odd thing. she was always mature beyond her age. never cared for partying or anything like that. i have been straight edge for 11 years so I don't drink/smoke any of that stuff either. always seemed like things were fine ... well, we had our ups and our downs, but nothing I would say "unfixable".

who knows though. sometimes wish I could see the future.

[Teabaggins]

maybe she got bored? how was the sex life?

[Batman1980]

Originally Posted by HiI'mBrian

that's the odd thing. she was always mature beyond her age. never cared for partying or anything like that. i have been straight edge for 11 years so I don't drink/smoke any of that stuff either. always seemed like things were fine ... well, we had our ups and our downs, but nothing I would say "unfixable".

who knows though. sometimes wish I could see the future.

There's an old saying. Life isn't about the destination, it's about the ride so buckle up and enjoy. Or something to that effect, my memory isn't what it used to be.

[radagast]

Originally Posted by krazyclown

no its my ex wifes brothers ex wife

Well then, your ex-wife and her ex-husband couldn't get revenge on the two of you by hooking up, without breaking some laws, or ending up on Jerry Springer.

[Beta Man]

exhibit A) you said she left you

exhibit B) you said she drinks/ "parties"

exhibit C) you don't, thus she goes out with friends more than you

exhibit D) you classified her friends as "sluts" who also drink/party, so in terms of a "Slut" they probably drink a lot, and have either one-nighters, or short awkward pseudo-relationships........

exhibit E) YOUR WIFE IS WITH THEM


If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck.........then that duck either IS, or HAS cheated on you.............. let me take a wild guess.......Her friends don't like you.................

[DJ Manyak]

Originally Posted by Beta Man

exhibit A) you said she left you

exhibit B) you said she drinks/ "parties"

exhibit C) you don't, thus she goes out with friends more than you

exhibit D) you classified her friends as "sluts" who also drink/party, so in terms of a "Slut" they probably drink a lot, and have either one-nighters, or short awkward pseudo-relationships........

exhibit E) YOUR WIFE IS WITH THEM


If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck.........then that duck either IS, or HAS cheated on you.............. let me take a wild guess.......Her friends don't like you.................

^^^^ This man speaks the truth

[Beta Man]

Originally Posted by Teabaggins

maybe she got bored? how was the sex life?

you're just fishing for details



let's not talk SEX here.......as per forum rules

[Teabaggins]

the forum rules are such a buzz kill

I propose a secret room that is not ruled by regular forum rules, anything goes! invitation only! cursing, sex talk, political incorrectness runs rampant etc etc no censorship!

[OrlandoEastwood]

Well, I am in my second engagement and my first fiancée was a straight up bi**h! We were together for three years and the first two years were fun and happy until she decided that we had been together for a long time and that we should get married. I said yes to it and I don't think that should have been that answer to that question because soon after she changed and changed for the worst. She turned into a total bi**h and it just made my head spin at all the crazy sh** she started doing.

And one of my best friends caught her in the act of cheating on me. They went to bar after my friend got off work. They had a few drinks and went dancing and my friend saw her making out with three different guys and grabbing a guy's crotch. My friend was off on her and said; "You are engaged, what the hell are you doing?" And she responded, "What, he's not here is he?"

And after that, it was over and I said to hell with this and just left. So, two years and about three relationships later I met my second fiancée and things are amazing. We're a couple that works together and we have a lot of things in common and at the same time, we're opposite. We've had struggles and we've had good times.

[DetroitSportsFan]

Originally Posted by Teabaggins

if you want revenge then post some pics of her here, hot ones...

Originally Posted by Mike53421

Having said that, Teabaggins offers up wise advice.

Agreed.

[mikejet]

Originally Posted by Teabaggins

the forum rules are such a buzz kill

I propose a secret room that is not ruled by regular forum rules, anything goes! invitation only! cursing, sex talk, political incorrectness runs rampant etc etc no censorship!

A couple of forums I goto have that. Open to all though but unmoderated. One area, any topics, no moderation.

[Navster]

Originally Posted by Teabaggins

the forum rules are such a buzz kill

I propose a secret room that is not ruled by regular forum rules, anything goes! invitation only! cursing, sex talk, political incorrectness runs rampant etc etc no censorship!

[DetroitSportsFan]

Originally Posted by Beta Man

exhibit A) you said she left you

exhibit B) you said she drinks/ "parties"

exhibit C) you don't, thus she goes out with friends more than you

exhibit D) you classified her friends as "sluts" who also drink/party, so in terms of a "Slut" they probably drink a lot, and have either one-nighters, or short awkward pseudo-relationships........

exhibit E) YOUR WIFE IS WITH THEM


If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck.........then that duck either IS, or HAS cheated on you.............. let me take a wild guess.......Her friends don't like you.................

I agree with this observation. Just move on and find a woman more like you, that won't try to "change" you. This girl just isn't worth the trouble.

[mikejet]

You guy have a pre-nup or is she gonna take half yer stuff?

[DonRSD]

Originally Posted by HiI'mBrian

my wife moved out recently as well ... said she just didn't think she had it in her anymore.
unlike you though, all I can think of is how to win back her heart and remind her of why we got together to start with.
we have been together for seven years, married four, no kids. I'm 26, she is 23. she just over time distanced herself more & more to video games and when I brought it up I got the "it's not you, it's me" excuse.
it sucks ... but, I am still fighting to keep it alive. Not wondering how to "get revenge" ... if you ever really loved her, you would be in the same boat as me.

if its worth fighting for then fight for it.
you also have to know when to let go.
i feel for you as you still have strong feelings and really love her.

good luck!!!

Originally Posted by Beta Man

exhibit A) you said she left you

exhibit B) you said she drinks/ "parties"

exhibit C) you don't, thus she goes out with friends more than you

exhibit D) you classified her friends as "sluts" who also drink/party, so in terms of a "Slut" they probably drink a lot, and have either one-nighters, or short awkward pseudo-relationships........

exhibit E) YOUR WIFE IS WITH THEM


If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck.........then that duck either IS, or HAS cheated on you.............. let me take a wild guess.......Her friends don't like you.................

thats what i was thinkign the entire time.
my wife is a few years older than me (im 29 she is 35) and we never go out with eachother
not because we dont trust eachother, but we have kids & work.

if i ever go out without her its to a sporting event (heat games or when the mets come down to play the marlins).....other than that we do everything as a family and maybe once a month we get a night to go out and will just get some dinner and a few drinks.
if my wife had friends like that and did things like that it spells trouble.
we arent in high school anymore.
all the club is for a flock of women is trouble

Originally Posted by OrlandoEastwood

Well, I am in my second engagement and my first fiancée was a straight up bi**h! We were together for three years and the first two years were fun and happy until she decided that we had been together for a long time and that we should get married. I said yes to it and I don't think that should have been that answer to that question because soon after she changed and changed for the worst. She turned into a total bi**h and it just made my head spin at all the crazy sh** she started doing.

And one of my best friends caught her in the act of cheating on me. They went to bar after my friend got off work. They had a few drinks and went dancing and my friend saw her making out with three different guys and grabbing a guy's crotch. My friend was off on her and said; "You are engaged, what the hell are you doing?" And she responded, "What, he's not here is he?"

And after that, it was over and I said to hell with this and just left. So, two years and about three relationships later I met my second fiancée and things are amazing. We're a couple that works together and we have a lot of things in common and at the same time, we're opposite. We've had struggles and we've had good times.

good for you!!!
most men wouldnt have gotten out in time of the 1st engagement. they wouldve stuck around.
once a cheat, always a cheat

glad to hear things are even better the 2nd time around.

the OP should read your post that there IS light at the end of the tunnel.

[Chordata]

Hell I try to encourage -- even force -- my wife to go out with her friends.

I wish they were sluts.

[DetroitSportsFan]

Originally Posted by DonRSD

if my wife had friends like that and did things like that it spells trouble.
we arent in high school anymore.
all the club is for a flock of women is trouble

Yeah, going out to clubs frequently with friends is nothing but trouble. I rank that up there with women having almost all male friends.

[Teabaggins]

Originally Posted by mikejet

You guy have a pre-nup or is she gonna take half yer stuff?

neither, she goin die, Imma fly..out this mutha...

[OrlandoEastwood]

Originally Posted by DonRSD

good for you!!!
most men wouldnt have gotten out in time of the 1st engagement. they wouldve stuck around.
once a cheat, always a cheat

glad to hear things are even better the 2nd time around.

the OP should read your post that there IS light at the end of the tunnel.

Well, I had things going for me from the get go. I was making film deals and even though they were failed film deals, I was getting places. So, I tried not to focus on the whole aspect of "I was engaged and I thought we were going to spend our lives together and now were not, what the hell is wrong with me?" and I just spent time doing what I love and I did that all by myself for two years. After that, I decided to get back into the game and just find someone and I did.

So, OP, whatever you like doing; do that for a while and take joy in it and just have fun for a while and then get back out there, man. Trust me, it's what I did and I am now a happy man. I'm not saying do as I did and go two years, but just take some time off and do what you enjoy doing.

[DJ Manyak]

Originally Posted by Teabaggins

neither, she goin die, Imma fly..out this mutha...

LMAO