Does everyone use max brightness for HDR?

[Nori]

I absolutely love hdr and am a big believer in the format, but it seems like most TV's push the brightness or backlight to max when switching to HDR.

Does anyone else find the max to be much too bright? I only watch films in a pitch black room and in some films when scenes transition from dark to bright I have had instances where I literally had tears flowing down my eyes from the backlight being too strong (an example is in Predator at the end with the explosions, or in some scenes in Baby Driver).

On my Sony x900e I find lowering backlight from 50 (max) to around 20 really helps alleviate this greatly. It also seems to bring the black levels to something closer to what I experience in non hdr content (at max backlight they're grayer than I'm used to when I see black bars).

Is simply reducing the backlight the best solution? I'd be very interested in knowing what other members do when brightness is too bright?

I noticed there's also gamma but the changes seem to be more impactful and I wasn't seeing the same positive effect to the blacks as I was by lowering brightness, so brightness seems to be more of a win win.

*I spent a few minutes going through threads to see if this was asked before and didn't see anything, but I apologize if it was.