Anybody seen escorts or other kinds of sex workers?

[Hitman Horton]

Originally Posted by Moviefan2k4

There's corruption in the U.S. too, for sure. My roommate has epilepsy like I do, but his type is much more unpredictable. He's conscious during his seizures, and if someone touches him the wrong way, he can physically lash out.

Well, this apparently happened to him one time with the police, several years ago before I met him. They put him in a cell, but he didn't have the right meds with him so his seizures continued. The cops tried restraining him, and as predicted he lashed out. They used that as an excuse to hold him, and my cousin had to personally visit the jail to arrange his release. When he first told me that story, I was very shocked...but thinking it over now, its not very surprising. With the lack of money for proper training involving the disabled, its no wonder those cops were clueless. But they still should've known better than to just hold him for no other reason.

Your friend is at least partly responsible for what happened. He should have had his meds. He also should have had some type of ID identifying him as epileptic as well as an information card telling people how to help him during a seizure. Most people wouldn't know what to do. It's his job to help them help him.

[Hitman Horton]

Originally Posted by TheSaunderschild1993

Maybe, but he may have not known they were coming. They normally just come without warning you.

Some people do have an aura before a seizure but I don't think most do. That's exactly why he should have something in place so somebody can help if necessary. Being epileptic and not having your medication with you is stupid.

[Moviefan2k4]

Originally Posted by Hitman Horton

Some people do have an aura before a seizure but I don't think most do. That's exactly why he should have something in place so somebody can help if necessary. Being epileptic and not having your medication with you is stupid.

In my roommate's defense, his form of epilepsy is so severe and unpredictable that I think he's on 10 or more different drugs to control it. He's also had multiple brain surgeries; there's a huge scar on the back of his head from when they once removed a part of his skull for such a procedure. As for getting his meds, some of them are actually legal narcotics because other drugs aren't as effective. That means his pharmacy often has to jump through different hoops in trying to fill them on time. By comparison, I'm on exactly one drug, and the key for me is making sure I take it the same time every day. As such, I haven't experienced a seizure for a little over three years, but at least mine knock me out to the point I can usually sleep the effects off. With my roommate, he'll often start wandering the house half-awake, able to hear me but unable to respond because his brain's so out of whack his communication center is off. So I have no choice but to head for my room and pray for him; God is the Great Physician, after all.

[fighthefutureofhd]

Interestingly enough (or I'm just a loser), I have some knowledge with the topic at hand. A similar situation happened to me. After my fiancé died, my mom became my rock. It wasn't intentional or anything. I didn't even notice it happened til after she passed. So yeah, when my mom passed I spiraled because I didn't have any connection. Not good anyway. I had no plans of every getting back out in the world in terms of meeting people, dating, connecting emotionally or physically, and whatnot. But with my mom passing my whole world and worldview was turned upside down. About a year after she passed, I started going down that "Pretty Woman" path. Only I was Richard Gere in that situation. There are sites where you can hire people or rent people's time and it's legal.

Well, legal in such a way that they haven't shut it down. I think it comes down to the whole "renting time" thing. If you're renting someone's time that's not illegal. Whatever you do with that person's time does not matter. And they do not advertise it as hooking up for money. It's much more on the up and up so to speak. Boy/girlfriend experience, modeling, dancing, and that sort of stuff. It's not as expensive as one might think either. Sometimes, you can get a couple of hours for $200.00. Try getting that for free. That went on for a little while, but it has been a while since I've done that. About two or 3 years I think, and even then it was a massage sort of thing. I'm still open to getting those. A massage can be very soothing while it relaxes your body. It even helps with Restless Leg, which I have pretty badly. I don't find anything wrong with any of that if that's what you're wanting or looking for. As to the notion that you don't get an emotional connection, I have found that not to be true.

Not in every case. Some do want to have a connection with their client somewhat, as it helps things and gives the client what they are seeking out/paying for. It's really not that different from hookup apps. Except you are paying to be able to get what you want. Sort of like ordering off a menu. You get something you want and custom made to how you would like it. Whereas if you're using a h--kup app, you don't always get to have what you want and the choices are not always that great. If someone is out of your league, you can forget it. However, no one is out of your league if you are willing to pay. As for Onlyfans, it's not any worse. Nor is it really that different from having an encounter with someone you met at a bar or maybe it is someone you know. It's just a potential for being filmed.

I never quite understood the aversion to that aspect. People's aversions to it usually stem from the worry that they will be out there for all the world to see/know what they are doing. Or that someone they know might see it. Not to mention that it never goes away really. What is the big deal? The people that would be looking at you and what you are doing shouldn't matter. And anyone you know seeing you on the internet doing that says a lot more about themselves then it does about you. Like if your brother found out by coming across a video with you in it, for example. They're not likely to say much of anything because then they have to explain how they came across it and why they were looking for something like that in the first place.

People are too hung up on others opinions of themselves. Who cares what they think. Are you going to bed with them every night? Are you going to see them more than once or twice, if that, in your life. It's a society thing and I understand, but I guess being Autistic changes your view on those things. You are already getting the side-eye from society and being judged so to speak. So, I guess it doesn't matter if they're judging for what you do and put out there in those terms. I know people aren't going to change and I can either live with that or worry about it all the time. Or simply don't give two cents about it and go on being myself. Doing what I do. Life is much easier when you don't have to live up to other's expectations or worry about their opinion's on a life they're not invested in or even living.

Originally Posted by Moviefan2k4

I have admittedly had many bad habits in my 44 years of life, but thank God none of them involved hiring any kind of sex worker. Given my lack of experience, I think the main reason a lot of them are so cold is because they've essentially had their hearts killed by the nature of what they do. Its not about love, compassion, or any true form of intimacy for them - its all about sex, and they expect to be paid. Its a very selfish and one-sided business, and they probably have the modern equivalent of pimps that they have to answer to. So their general attitude is probably something like, "Pay me, and let's get this over with so I can move on to someone else." It may sound demeaning or cruel, but that's what happens when you begin thinking of sex as involving the physical alone.

I have a lot of bad habits myself and that is one I can include on a rare occasion these days. They're not as messed up as people think. It's no different
from having a one night stand. Look at it this way: if you are already routinely having one night stands you might as well make some money too. It's just another side hustle.

Originally Posted by TheSaunderschild1993

Yeah. But unfortunately, people online are often silly.

There is this annoying knob in Western Australia called James, and he creates a plethora of accounts on other forums, Fandom, Internet Archive and YouTube, calling me names, tagging me, contacting people about me, and quoting me on a blog. Puts dumb potato faces in the posts as well, and calls me a retard.

[Show spoiler]
He is also constantly uploading bizarre videos, pretending he is walking about my town, picking up a photo of Lance Reddick, an envelope, and whatnot.

In his older videos, he was seen half disguised, tossing a Pepsi bottle down stairs and kicking it. Then in one he deleted, he ot off an elevator and recorded himself walking at a nearby promenade, or whatever.
I even called the cops in Perth when it escalatedto him posting my address, but they said they don't have the jurisdiction to arrest a person if you say you are in Britain. Although he has known me online sine 2004, the harassment began in 2017
He posted pictures of himself and then I got a New Zealand IP address. Then I found his Twitter profile. Since then, he has mad Sherlock Holmes jokes, while obsessing over me and listing my user name changes. Because on some forums, you can alter your alias or ask an adminto do it. But then he just lists all of them, or sends me friend requests that I immediately have to reject.

Like, this is his spam.

https://anxietyforum.net/forum/showt...901#post259901

And this is his weird YouTube channels.

https://m.youtube.com/results?sp=mAE...esaundersadult

https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCe0SwfuRx_r4HeWvVqOc9vA

I never had anything quite that bad, but I had a similar situation. This was back in the days before widespread internet and cellphones with cameras. I met these two people in an AOL chatroom (tells you how far back that goes) and they decided to come get me at my place to hang out. They got to my place and I opened the door. They took one look and said NO! They left and drove home laughing about it all the way home. Then they proceeded to tell everyone about it and all kinds of awful stuff about me every time we were in the same chat room together. It bothered me at the time, but I realized later on that they must have such miserable lives to have spent wasting their time harassing me. Which says more about them then it does me.

Originally Posted by MrHT

Trust me, don't do it. The risk of contracting STDs and possibly HIV/AIDS, and the worry and complications that go along with it are simply not worth it, especially on a woman who has absolutely no affection for you. Sex should be accompanied with real love & affection and you will not get that whatsoever with a sex worker. Not to mention that sex work is illegal in many areas and you also risk getting arrested if you happen to get raided or end up meeting up with an undercover cop.

It's no different than having a one night stand. The risk of contracting STDs and possibly HIV/AIDS is still there. And, in fact, is probably worse with a random stranger you meet on some app that comes overs. At least with these "sex workers" they are vetted to some degree and can be trusted more. Not to mention, many of them have reviews online so you can get a clearer picture of things. Random hookups don't have that. They probably should. It would cut down on a lot of "walk of shames". Which is another reason that "sex workers" are the better option. You almost never have that "walk of shame". You know what you are getting and you aren't fooled in any way. It's a WHOLE LOT more transparent.

[Moviefan2k4]

Originally Posted by fighthefutureofhd

I have a lot of bad habits myself and that is one I can include on a rare occasion these days. They're not as messed up as people think. It's no different from having a one night stand. Look at it this way: if you are already routinely having one night stands you might as well make some money too. It's just another side hustle.

I don't believe in one-night stands, for two reasons. First, it goes against my faith, and second I can't divorce the emotional aspects of sex from the physical (and for that matter, I never understood anyone who could). That's why I said sex workers in general probably have let their hearts die; its become so routine and soulless for them they probably wouldn't even know how to permanently bond is a real relationship.

[R3P0]

I'm not going to lie here not sure if this is a cry for help or just a general looking to talk to someone but my suggestion relocate. Start over Start fresh. If your not happy with your life don't stay where your not happy.

Sell what you can maybe relocate to another country someplace that makes you happy.

Make new friends meet new people. **** the false people in life who hold you down or make you feel like shit.

If you have no kids and nothing to hold you back relocate take some risks, go on a cruise do some excursions, Go Skydiving, Go Zip lining, Do something that genuinely terrifies you and face it head on. Conquer that everything else will fall into place.

People genuinely gravitate towards a person radiating confidence. Be that person the rest falls into place.

[Moviefan2k4]

Originally Posted by TheSaunderschild1993

Trying to find a girlfriend is just as mind numbing, because of all the gimmicky nonsense, time-wasters, and hidden fees that come with being online. The dating sites are all usually designed for neurotypicals anyway.

The old-fashioned way is the only way to go. Meeting someone face to face. Hos are just bad news.

When I saw my ex-girlfriend for the first time, we were both actually living at a homeless shelter. My mother had sent me there after we fought about a perceived lack of responsibility on my part, which in all fairness was somewhat true, but not for the reasons she believed. My autism kept me from expressing my thoughts accurately, and in the end she literally abandoned me there. Anyway, I don't think I'd even been there a full day, when I saw the most beautiful woman in my life. She wasn't a supermodel or anything, but what attracted me the most was her eyes. She was crying slightly, and I was standing maybe 30 feet away, completely unnoticed. But in that moment, I felt an immediate emotional connection, because I knew all about inner pain. My first thought wasn't about romance or sex at all - I just wanted to try and help her, any way that I could. A different cousin of mine was also there with his family, so not long afterward he introduced the two of us properly, and we quickly hit things off. I sometimes wonder how things would be now, if so many terrible things that happened later would've been avoided. I've accepted the fact we can't be together anymore, but a part of my heart will always love her, no matter what.

[Moviefan2k4]

Originally Posted by TheSaunderschild1993

Yeah. I know the feeling.

I really wish I hadn't met my first ex. She was crazy.

We met in a charity shop. I had to do a work placement. Her pals were bullies. I hadn't seen her for years after I just stopped going out to her area. She moved away. This made me feel lonely. And then she contacted me in 2012 through Facebook. Briefly dumped this other guy to go about with me. She spent a week at my flat, just playing catch up.

Then she went nuts. Wanted me to get her an iPod and threw a hissy fit. Then I got her birthday presents, which she greedily wanted before her birthday. After that, she was all like, "Can we just be friends?" due to this other guy being in her life. You know?

She did other things too. But I met this other, much younger girl. Her mother made her dump me because of her age. She wanted to have a kid with me. Then my own mum got ill, started dialysis, and passed away a year ago. So, that sure made me feel like a loser.

I'm sorry you went through all of that. My own past is much more twisted, but I won't go into the specifics here. My ex wasn't a monster, its just that we both made repeated choice that greatly hurt and divided the two of us. Frodo's narration from The Return of the King sums things up for me pretty well in this regard...

"How do you pick up the threads of an old life? How do you go on, when in your heart you begin to understand there is no going back? There are some things that time cannot mend, some hurts that go too deep...that have taken hold."

Don't get me wrong; I believe in forgiveness 100%...but you can't make someone else trust or love you again if they don't want to. I tried chatting with my ex a few months ago online, and for a short time it went okay. But after a few weeks, it devolved into a lot of misunderstandings on both sides, and we each said things we shouldn't have. The truth of the matter is that she moved on long ago, and I was never able to because I loved her so much. But to save what was left of my own sanity, I had to accept the truth. For whatever reason, she's become a distant shell of her former self, closed off and fiercely defensive. I will always remember her differently though, as the tender, graceful, compassionate, and understanding woman I met so many years ago.

[TheSaunderschild1993]

You sound like a cool guy. I hope you find someone special. I know it isn't too late for me either, but my anxiety and social skills are failing now. I know in order to meet a girlfriend, I'm probably going to have to find stuff to do offline, locally. Likely in groups. But I get anxiety all the time, which makes me feel like I need to "avoid" certain situations. Although I'm going to be 39 in January. I really do feel like I need to make those much needed adjustments.

The thing is, with myself, I get anxiety being around too many people at once, since everyone is different in terms of their traits. I like quiet spots as well. I'm not fond of places that blast all that horrible music, so you have to try to talk over that rubbish. This is why one-to-one situations are somewhat easier for me. I can get to know a person better in a relaxed setting.

But usually, it can start to feel like just about everyone else out there achieves everything so effortlessly, while I'm just like one of these stay at home nerds who researches music and movies and stuff all day long, pretty much all the time. It's nice to have a hobby one enjoys, but if it's all you do with your time, it will get lonely not having people to blab to about it. A lot of people my age won't even know the things I like anyway. Despite my age, I'm more into retro media, so they find my taste is obscure. So when I did tell people about my love for it, I came across as a rambler.

I wonder how they do it. They must be so attractive, talkative, likeable, or whatever. I'm not saying I'm not likeable, but I'm not physically attractive at all. I wear glasses full-time because of having high myopia. I'd essentially be blind without them. I'm also like a stick insect.

But I'm certainly tired of escorts. I get bad ED too. I use Viagra, but it makes me feel flushed, and I end up with a headache. Because I'm agoraphobic, if it's an in call where they basically get you to go to their place, I walk to their flat. This is despite owning a bus pass. I feel too nervous using buses. Then I normally find I'm just too knackered to screw them after I undress, and it doesn't do anything for me.

Supplements generally only work if you're aroused, and this may sound strange, but I struggle to have sex if it's too humid. Like in the summer, I had someone over at my flat. It was so darn clammy that day, that it was making me lose focus.

But yeah. That's after contacting a billion of them, getting scammed, insulted, blocked, and sundry. It is like, what the heck do I have to do to even make guttersnipe appreciate me? The world just has too many rules, etiquette and stuff, that my brain is just saying, "Hell no. I cannot take hearing this!"

[Moviefan2k4]

No offense, but you might want to censor the more explicit parts of this, before the mods read it and either lock this thread or ban you outright. We've been treading on thin ice by discussing sex workers at all, to be honest.

[TheSaunderschild1993]

OK. I'll stop talking about them. They're not worth talking about any more anyway.

People in the past recommended that I travel. Like go overseas. I've never even flown before.

The furthest I have been, ever, was to the Isle of Arran. If I could go somewhere, I'd love to check out a country such as New Zealand. I seen videos of it, and they have similar walkways to Edinburgh, which is like a twin city to Dunedin, I believe. Pathways lead off into the woods. But where I am, you may start to feel too boxed in with all the housing schemes.

My mum loved the ocean. I think that's why she liked going to that hospice. It is right by the sea. She often talked of wanting to live in a place like Musselburgh, but these places are always hard to get into. They're just way too popular. But in the suburbs, there's a lot of teenage gangs, and anti-social people are everywhere.

[Moviefan2k4]

When my Mom passed 9 years ago, one of her sisters said she loved the water...to which my reaction was, "Since when?!" I remembered that both she and my Grandma had taught me to swim was I was a kid, but for most of my life after that she stayed away from both pools and the ocean.

[MrHT]

Originally Posted by TheSaunderschild1993

But I'm certainly tired of escorts. I get bad ED too. I use Viagra, but it makes me feel flushed, and I end up with a headache.

The problem is, there is ZERO emotional connection with a sex worker! That could be why you're having trouble and need Viagra.

[TheSaunderschild1993]

Yeah. It normally states that in the leaflet.

[R3P0]

Originally Posted by TheSaunderschild1993

OK. I'll stop talking about them. They're not worth talking about any more anyway.

People in the past recommended that I travel. Like go overseas. I've never even flown before.

The furthest I have been, ever, was to the Isle of Arran. If I could go somewhere, I'd love to check out a country such as New Zealand. I seen videos of it, and they have similar walkways to Edinburgh, which is like a twin city to Dunedin, I believe. Pathways lead off into the woods. But where I am, you may start to feel too boxed in with all the housing schemes.

My mum loved the ocean. I think that's why she liked going to that hospice. It is right by the sea. She often talked of wanting to live in a place like Musselburgh, but these places are always hard to get into. They're just way too popular. But in the suburbs, there's a lot of teenage gangs, and anti-social people are everywhere.

This is where I again say if your mom loved the Ocean, it sounds as if she may have passed based on your reference to past tense. It may be a great way to reconnect with her at least in spirit.

It sounds as if you may be from Europe, if so I recommend Royal Caribbean, get a balcony room. Don't buy food package its a waste, depending on what you drink, basic drink package is all you can drink water and soda. Alcohol package a bit more expensive per day.

You can eat for free in the buffet area. This is why I say don't buy food package.

Do this for you dont do it for anyone else dont invite anyone else. Dont get internet packages. You sound as if you could use soome true you time.

[TheSaunderschild1993]

I'm in Edinburgh, Scotland.

Gonna be kept busy filing paperwork with the court. I need to type up covering letters to go with these forms. Really grateful my mate gave me a laptop for free, as writing on phones is hard. I cannot be bothered with this nonsense, to be honest. But it's something I just want done and dusted.

This box for example doesn't look right to me. Half the time, it looks like it is over to the right.

I had to upgrade the drivers. Like a dozen of them. It had many that were out of date.

[fighthefutureofhd]

Originally Posted by Moviefan2k4

I don't believe in one-night stands, for two reasons. First, it goes against my faith, and second I can't divorce the emotional aspects of sex from the physical (and for that matter, I never understood anyone who could). That's why I said sex workers in general probably have let their hearts die; its become so routine and soulless for them they probably wouldn't even know how to permanently bond is a real relationship.

There's nothing wrong with one night stands. No faith truly believes you will burn in h--l for all eternity if you have them. Just like the fact you won't go blind from poking your cannoli. That's just what religions want you to believe. But the man himself don't care. He's probably like, heck yeah dude. go for it. Divorcing yourself emotionally from the physical act of s-- is no big deal. I mean, you divorce the emotional from the physical when you're playing with your organ grinder. Do you have emotional feelings when you go to the restroom. Having inter----se is just another physical thing our body does and sometimes needs that really isn't emotional. Besides, we're talking about SE-. It's not like we're talking about love making. It's a romp in the hey. There is nothing emotional about that. Doing the horizontal limbo with someone and making two bodies connect to make sweet, sweet melodies like the ones made from playing an electric guitar are two different things. Though you can have both together and it still doesn't mean there is emotion involved. Passion is not a dirty 7 letter word. Let me put this way, If I'm not super hung up on se- and all that, then anyone can be. Cause trust me, I HAVE my hangups with S-X. But it's not for any of the reasons you mentioned. it's not as hard as you think (that's what she said).

Originally Posted by MrHT

The problem is, there is ZERO emotional connection with a sex worker! That could be why you're having trouble and need Viagra.

That is not true at all. I have had PLENTY of emotional connections with "se-x workers". it's not like their dead bodies just laying there waiting to get it over with. if that's the case, you might want to think about tipping and paying more. $2.00 won't get you much. Heck, you can get more at home watching a movie and playing jack in the box then you can with them $2.00 ones.

[MrHT]

Originally Posted by fighthefutureofhd

There's nothing wrong with one night stands. No faith truly believes you will burn in h--l for all eternity if you have them. Just like the fact you won't go blind from poking your cannoli. That's just what religions want you to believe. But the man himself don't care. He's probably like, heck yeah dude. go for it. Divorcing yourself emotionally from the physical act of s-- is no big deal. I mean, you divorce the emotional from the physical when you're playing with your organ grinder. Do you have emotional feelings when you go to the restroom. Having inter----se is just another physical thing our body does and sometimes needs that really isn't emotional. Besides, we're talking about SE-. It's not like we're talking about love making. It's a romp in the hey. There is nothing emotional about that. Doing the horizontal limbo with someone and making two bodies connect to make sweet, sweet melodies like the ones made from playing an electric guitar are two different things. Though you can have both together and it still doesn't mean there is emotion involved. Passion is not a dirty 7 letter word. Let me put this way, If I'm not super hung up on se- and all that, then anyone can be. Cause trust me, I HAVE my hangups with S-X. But it's not for any of the reasons you mentioned. it's not as hard as you think (that's what she said).



That is not true at all. I have had PLENTY of emotional connections with "se-x workers". it's not like their dead bodies just laying there waiting to get it over with. if that's the case, you might want to think about tipping and paying more. $2.00 won't get you much. Heck, you can get more at home watching a movie and playing jack in the box then you can with them $2.00 ones.

That is excellent advice! Thank you!

[Moviefan2k4]

Originally Posted by fighthefutureofhd

There's nothing wrong with one night stands. No faith truly believes you will burn in h--l for all eternity if you have them. Just like the fact you won't go blind from poking your cannoli. That's just what religions want you to believe. But the man himself don't care. He's probably like, heck yeah dude. go for it. Divorcing yourself emotionally from the physical act of s-- is no big deal. I mean, you divorce the emotional from the physical when you're playing with your organ grinder. Do you have emotional feelings when you go to the restroom. Having inter----se is just another physical thing our body does and sometimes needs that really isn't emotional. Besides, we're talking about SE-. It's not like we're talking about love making. It's a romp in the hey. There is nothing emotional about that. Doing the horizontal limbo with someone and making two bodies connect to make sweet, sweet melodies like the ones made from playing an electric guitar are two different things. Though you can have both together and it still doesn't mean there is emotion involved. Passion is not a dirty 7 letter word. Let me put this way, If I'm not super hung up on se- and all that, then anyone can be. Cause trust me, I HAVE my hangups with S-X. But it's not for any of the reasons you mentioned. it's not as hard as you think (that's what she said).

Well, I respectfully disagree on your spiritual comments, and as for the emotional component I can only speak of my very limited experience. Physically, my ex and I had a tremendous love life...but the problem was that after a while, we just kept fighting about everything else. In the beginning, there was mutual trust and real intimacy, but after a while I felt like she was emotionally pulling away, and that truly bothered me. While I don't deny that I enjoyed her body, what I wanted even more was her heart...and I couldn't understand why she suddenly started putting so many walls up. Repeated conflicts about that is one of the many things which ultimately drove us apart, and I swore to myself afterward that I would never make such a mistake again.

[Lemmy Lugosi]

Having been in several bands since the late 1970’s, then being a professional roadie, a radio disc jockey, and then managed a few good bands, I have seen and done and been involved in some things. Even paid for some. And that is that. I’m not talking about any Diddy-level stuff, just general rock and roll debauchery. Now you must excuse me; I’m preparing to go look at yet another guitar, about an hour away.