The female mind.

[Spankey]

You'll have to fill in the blanks here...

Is this female friend a friend or friend with benefits?
Is she attractive and have you or her hinted at there being more than friends?

Here is my analysis...

She asked if you wanted to see her.
You sounded indifferent..

Had you said, I'd love to see you..looking forward to it, you wouldn't have gotten an indifferent response back.

[Filterlab]

Originally Posted by sltmag

You'll have to fill in the blanks here...

Is this female friend a friend or friend with benefits?
Is she attractive and have you or her hinted at there being more than friends?

She's simply a friend - nothing else.

[Spankey]

Friend or no friend, she is still a girl/woman. You can't treat her like one of the guys. You gave her an indifferent answer to a direct question, and then she responded with indifference.

I think she wants a tad more.

[Maximus]

No, you have to say, "Hmm, I am a bit busy, but I will try and make some time for you if you still want to come"

It makes her feel special and wanted.

[Blu-Ray Buckeye]

Originally Posted by Maxpower1987

No, you have to say, "Hmm, I am a bit busy, but I will try and make some time for you if you still want to come"

It makes her feel special and wanted.

I like where Maxpower is going with this although I might shift the wording... the whole "if you still want to come" thing sits a bit wrong with me. The point however is correct... never appear to be totally not busy as you should project yourself as being in demand. Also show that you are willing to alter said plans for her but do not do so at the drop of a hat; Say that you will check w/ your other "plans" and have her get back to you in awhile.

The weird thing here to me (and maybe other guys are sensing it)... if she is just a friend then why bother asking? I've had many female friends but they tended to be grilfriends of my friends or something more neutral. In those cases of just friends I simply never cared about their behavior really or dissected it as you are. Whenever I had female friends that I spent a lot of 1-on-1 time w/ they always turned into something more. I'm just sayin'.

[Spankey]

^^Yep. All that needed to be said was that you've been busy, but would definitely look forward to getting together, or make some time, etc. Only had one girl "friend" in my life as well. We weren't each others type, and our personalities would clash as a relationship. Otherwise, I kind of subscribe to the theory of women and men not really being able to be "friends" in the strictest sense.

[Blue]

This is so simple.
If you say yes - your in trouble for being too easy.
If you say no - your in toruble for being to hard
If you say I'm not sure - you in trouble for being indesicive
If you say "you tell me what I should say" - your really in for it.
In other words you aint going to win no matter what - isn't that right darling (OUCH)

[WriteSimply]

Originally Posted by Blue

This is so simple.
If you say yes - your in trouble for being too easy.
If you say no - your in toruble for being to hard
If you say I'm not sure - you in trouble for being indesicive
If you say "you tell me what I should say" - your really in for it.
In other words you aint going to win no matter what - isn't that right darling (OUCH)

What Blue said.

Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus. It's a lot easier to date people from your home planet.

Seriously though, don't play head games and don't date people who play head games. It won't get that far and you'll lose your vocal chords in the process.


fuad

[Balian]

Or she could just texted the wrong person.

[RUR]

Originally Posted by Blue

If you say "you tell me what I should say" - your really in for it.

I've had a happy marriage for many years, but I often ask my wife what the correct answer to her question is before I respond. Saves time and she actually gets a laugh out of it.